How to make the best decision

Originally emailed 12.06.12

This week as I began decorating the house for Christmas I realized what a good example it provides for a favorite phrase of mine: “The heart of discernment is trying it on.”

So often we agonize over a decision, mentally tormenting ourselves with all the possibilities and paralyzing our ability to move forward.  But the key to making good decisions–what we often call “discerning” in the Church–is to “try it on.” And so, as I moved through the house, I found myself practicing “good discernment” each time I tried a red bow on a wreath, then a gold, and stepped back to observe (“try on”) which one looked best to me.

Obviously, Christmas decorating does not involve life altering decision, but the mechanics are the same. Are you wrestling with a big decision right now? Is there a way you could “try it on”? A way to stick your toes in the water? Perhaps visit the office where you think you might like to work? Take a short break from a relationship you’re thinking of walking away from? Volunteer for something that’s in the realm of the career change you’re considering? Stop tying yourself up in mental knots and in some small way “try it on”!

Advent Blessings, Mother Candace+

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